Deborah Nelson

Safe Online Dating--Background Checks for Java Date?



Posted: Monday, August 17, 2009

by Deborah Nelson
Author Your Dreams

Dating sites, and other social networking sites are fast forming their own virtual dark alleyways where a new criminals are hiding and operating quite anonymously. In California, a 19-year-old college student went missing in June after she meeting a convicted sex offender on Craigslist. In Philadelphia, a man was accused of raping seven women, six of whom he met on Match.com.. 

Reports of people being lured by personal ads whether on paid dating sites or free classified ads are increasing daily. At one time, personal computers were expensive and small percentage of the population was computer literate. Computers are now inexpensive, and mainstreamed with children growing up using them and the Internet has become a venue for crime-anonymous crime.

Online love predators are finding that dating sites venues are great places to hide behind dating profiles. Safe online dating is no longer a given. But do you do a background check for a Java date? With over 50% of dating profiles being false, many dating and relationship coaches are advocating just that. 

But how realistic and practical is that? And just when do you run the background check...before the first date (seems a little much); or after you are already emotionally attached?

Consider the new concept of Dating ID. Dating ID is non invasive and voluntary. It is a yearly renewal event, whereas running a background check on each person you date can be tedious and expensive. If the person is really trying to keep you in the dark about who they really are, false Identity information could give a "false positive" reading in the background check.

Although an ID check won't prove their character or criminal background, it's an important first step for safe online dating. Once you get to know them and want to take the relationship to a serious level, a real background check prior to marriage may be in order; but at least at that time you will know you are running a background check on a real person.

Ms Nelson is a writer/creative entrpreneur and owner of several businesses including Author Your Dreams Publishing (http://www.authoryourdreams.com);  Inventor of Dating ID (http://www.DatingID.org) and Founder of The Dating Passport (http://www.mydatingpassport.com). She was a two-time nominee of the Entreprenerial Excellence Award given by WORKING WOMENS MAGAZINE and Ms. Corporate America National Finalist in 2008.

Deborah S. Nelson an author/entrepreneur, is author of 7 books, her latest is entitled VROM-Vacation Rental Owner's Manual-Do it Yourself Vacation Rental Management. As a founder for Vacation Rental Guru, she is dedicated to bringing a higher standard of professionalism to the vacation rental business. If you are a vacation rental business owner, you may go to her site to get some powerful free vacation rental business tools. Http://www.VacationRentalGuru.org. And for her Dreams to Reality Series, you may go visit her site at Author Your Dreams.
Ms Nelson is a 2-time nominee of the WORKING WOMAN'S ENTREPRENEREAL Excellance award, and a 2008 National Finalist in the Ms. Corporate America Pageant. She is also the founder of Http://TheDatingPassport.com and author of  the her true story, "Oops, I Married a Con Artist!"
 
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» left by Marty Laughton
from Houston, Texas 2 years 262 days ago.
It is so true that with anonymity so prevelant we do not fully realize how vulnerable that we are when we meet people online.
 
When we go on an airplane EVERYONE has been positively identified; and that is just to make a short trip. When you fall in love and marry someone its for a lifetime (hopefully).
 
The concept of dating ID just makes all the sense in the world if we want to be successful lin our love life...at the very least it will cut down on the all the time wasted talking to fantasy profiles who do not ever intend to even meet you!
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